Flippin’ Friday

computer_codeHaving been in IT for all my working life, I should know better, but it still annoys the hell out of me when computers mess with my life. I’ve been working on a redesign project for one of our websites and my desktop decided it knew better than I did when it came to the general look and feel of the site.

Basically, it minimalized the content by losing all the references to the images and text across the whole site. Naturally, this made the pages much quicker to load, but also made the site a little too simplistic. Finally, I have been able to fix the underlying problem, but that leaves the onerous task of adding all the content back into the site.

Other aspects of life can be like that. If I ever lost my mobile, or my iPad went AWOL, half my life would go with them. We all record names, addresses and other details such as birthdays on these nice shiny bits of hardware, in the vain belief that their memories are better than ours, but on some occasions they aren’t.

Somewhere, filed neatly in one of the drawers at home, I have a piece of A4 paper with my entire families names, addresses, birthdays and anniversaries. My Mom painstakingly wrote them down for me years ago, and although I have no real idea where the paper is, I know for sure, that if I find it, it will still have the details recorded.

So even though it’s Friday, and the weekend is just round the corner, it’s not been the best day of the week so far. As with most days, there are lessons to be learned, and mine for today is to make sure everything is backed up in such a way that I can recreate a site from scratch, even when everything looks secure. You just never know do you?

NIMBY Central

Gypsy CaravanThere was a little surprise waiting for us when we all arrived at work this morning, a group of travellers had set up camp in the office car park overnight. Ordinarily, the people I work with are polite, well mannered folk, but this situation has brought of the worst in many of them.

I’m sure we’ve all seen the stories about travellers on TV, or heard about things that have happened when they are in the vicinity, but I’ve never had any contact with any myself, so any impression is via third party stories. So I am happy to leave these folks in peace, in truth, apart from a bit of litter, they seem to be behaving themselves.

These people choose, or are born into, a life on the road. It’s well documented, that there are too few council sites around the country, so one can only imagine that they are forced to find impromptu sites of their own. Being next to the Bickerley Mill stream and open fields, they certainly couldn’t have chosen a more picturesque place.

The reaction of some of my colleagues has been a bit of an eye-opener. I suppose the fear of the unknown can make people say things they might usually not. Nobody wants to find that their car has been damaged or run the risk of verbal abuse from a complete stranger, but I wonder whether the media has painted an accurate picture of these people.

My hope is that the travellers prove the media reports wrong, that they go about their business in a peaceful manner and move on, in time, without incident. I also hope that my colleagues come to realise that these folks are human too, and treat them with the respect they deserve. After all, but for an accident of birth, we might be the ones sitting out in the caravans in the rain.

Changing Times

The Byrds - Turn, Turn, TurnEverything in life changes, one of the main principles of Buddhism is that of impermanence the idea that nothing lasts forever. But these changes have a natural order, a structure that, if observed, make the changes simple and easy. If however, we fail to observe that order, things get difficult, uncomfortable, even unbearable.

Those of us of a certain age remember a song by The Byrds, Turn, Turn, Turn, written by Pete Seeger, the words of which are actually based on a passage from the Book of Ecclesiastes and are sometimes attributed to the wise Old Testament ruler King Solomon.

I think the lyrics perfectly explain the manner in which changes and The Wheel of Life are inextricably linked:

To every thing, turn, turn, turn
There is a season, turn, turn, turn
And a time to every purpose under heaven
A time to be born, a time to die
A time to plant, a time to reap
A time to kill, a time to heal
A time to laugh, a time to weep
To everything, turn, turn, turn
There is a season, turn, turn, turn
And a time to every purpose under heaven
A time to build up, a time to break down
A time to dance, a time to mourn
A time to cast away stones
A time to gather stones together
To everything, turn, turn, turn
There is a season, turn, turn, turn
And a time to every purpose under heaven
A time of love, a time of hate
A time of war, a time of peace
A time you may embrace
A time to refrain from embracing
To everything, turn, turn, turn
There is a season, turn, turn, turn
And a time to every purpose under heaven
A time to gain, a time to lose
A time to rend, a time to sew
A time to love, a time to hate
A time for peace, I swear it’s not too late

Tranquillity

TranquillityOfficially, today was Tuesday, but in computer speak it was actually Monday++. With the extra day off, the weekend just meant that the pile of work waiting for me when I got into the office this morning was 50% bigger than a normal Monday, and you know how I feel about them. So it was all hands on deck and the day passed without a break, ironically at break-neck speed.

So by the time 5:00 o’clock arrived I was in need of some peace and quiet. Fortunately, the stream behind the office is exactly the right place to find such an environment, so before diving into the car and setting off for MQ, I took several long minutes to just stand and chant in the evening sunshine, watch the quiet waters flow past, and let my mind find its equilibrium as the trials and tribulations of the day drifted away with the shining lazy current.

If we are to deal with the challenges of every day life, it is important to take a deep breath, inhale the quieter side of life, and release the stress that builds up inside. Next time you find yourself feeling agitated, stressed out, or getting submerged beneath the everyday strains that life puts upon us, find a quite spot, take time to stand still and just let those anxieties drift away.

Far from being a waste of time, they may be the most important minutes of your day.

A Right Pain In The Neck

A Right Pain In The NeckBy this morning we were supposed to have ticked all the boxes on the to-do list and had planned to take a trip to Bristol Zoo with Charlotte, Rob and the boys, if the weather was dry. So apart from the fact that there were still unfinished items on the list and that it was raining cats and dogs intermittently, Bumble had a very sore neck, the result of overdoing the manual work during the path construction.

A day that was going to be filled with the wonder of beautiful animals and the fun of being with C & R and the three boys, turned into one of pain and anguish. The neck problem is a legacy of a whiplash injury many years ago, but B, being B, just has to get involved with the lifting and carrying, despite being a bit prone to aches, pains and injuries.

Being the real trooper she is, she insisted on coming with me to get a few things from the shops, when she should really have been tucked up, snug and warm, in bed, being pampered by yours truly. Not a chance really, though I did manage to get her to rest when we got back home. and I think the toasted cinnamon and raisin bagel and mug of hot tea was pretty well received.

We can both learn lessons from the episode. B has to learn to take things a little bit easier when it comes to heavy manual work. She’s no old granny, although she is a granny, but nor is she the spring chicken she might like to think she is. I have to learn to look out for, and after her, though sadly I didn’t know about the neck injury until today.

Fortunately the pain is subsiding, with the help of a few painkillers. But the whole debacle could so easily avoided if we had both taken a large dose of wisdom before we started the project. It won’t happen again, I’ll see to that.

Pure Talent

Click here to see more of Liz's workSunday is supposed to be the day of rest, but in true Greystones tradition, it was a mixture of work and play. After a slightly later start than yesterday we got on with a few little jobs, little in stature, but as always, bigger in reality, all taking longer than expected.

The highlight of the morning was a visit from B’s friend Liz. She’s a hugely talented lady, an artist and a professional violinist. The sort of person who oozes creativity and who is in the fortunate position to be able to live in a beautiful part of the country, whilst making her living doing things she truly loves.

The highlight of the afternoon was choosing the plants for the hanging baskets for the front of the Cottage. There are so many beautiful plants, but so little room to pack them in, so some difficult choices had to be made. Having decided that we would plump for a pinky purple colour scheme, it narrowed the field down a fair bit.

Having found a selection of tall and short, upright and trailing plants, it was great fun mixing the compost and getting down and dirty in the greenhouse. We had a little battle with the planting. B wanted to go all random, but I wanted them to match. So we came to a compromise of a matching pair of random baskets.

We gave them a good dousing and apart from actually hanging them on the wall they are ready to look beautiful for the whole summer. It’s lovely ‘creating’ a feature out of plants and flowers. Even a klutz like me can make a beautiful display when you have nature’s perfection to work with. When they are fixed in place and looking lovely, I’ll post some pictures so you can enjoy them too.

The Gravel Path To Enlightenment

The Gravel Path To EnlightenmentThe prospect of lowering the gravel path outside the cottage by 10cm, with the help of B’s son and the children’s father didn’t exactly fill me with glee. Not that I am afraid of a bit of hard physical work, or of meeting a significant part of her past, but putting both together had seemed like it could possibly be a step too far.

Of course I shouldn’t have worried, B is a very caring person and would never knowingly put anyone in a difficult situation. So several hours and thousands of burned calories later, B has a nice newly laid gravel path, Sam has found his car key and I have found I have quite a lot in common with a man I didn’t really expect to meet.

We had a good laugh, talked about psychology, philosophy, spiritual and new age things, shared a bacon butty lunch and really got on rather well. Funny how life can surprise you, and in a good way, when you let it.

Why Are We Here?

Why Are We Here?Sorry to disappoint everyone, but there is no answer to that question here.

I get a lot of visitors to The Search For Enlightenment (TSFE) and I thought you might like to tell me why you visit.

I’ve added a few simplistic answers, in case you don’t have time to write your own. But if an appropriate answer isn’t in the list, add your own (please keep them clean).

Here’s the form …

And thank you for taking the time to let me know why you are here.

Anupadin

A Little More Responsibility

Be ResponsibleFollowing yesterday’s little incident, the topic of responsibility has been playing on my mind. Responsibility, they say, can weigh heavy on the shoulders of some people. But that need not be the case if we all accept that each and every action we take comes with automatic responsibility.

We all make mistakes from time to time, we are only human after all and mistakes are an all too human trait. The mistakes themselves are, quite often, easily forgiven, if we take the simple, and honest action of owning up.

Owning up is a bit of a strange saying, don’t you think? Owning means responsible for, owning a dog means being responsible for that animal, owning a house means being responsible for the upkeep of that building. So owning up to a mistake really means accepting that you are responsible for that mistake.

The big problem comes, it seems to me, when we refuse to be responsible for making, or refuse to accept that there is, any mistake we have made. Being a fully paid up member of the human race, I’ve made more than my fair share of mistakes. The problems have always come along when I’ve failed to own up.

So there are two simple ways to help with our mistakes. Think before you think, say or do anything, and if it transpires at a later time, that it was a mistake, take responsibility for that mistake before it causes any more problems.

Responsibility

Who's Responsible?Taking responsibility for all our actions is a basic principle of Buddhism, but of course it should be a principle we all live by, irrespective of our faith. We were spectators to an incident at work today, where responsibility was dodged, or at least postponed.

We were just packing up at the end of the day, when we heard a loud bang. Someone joked that it was someone wrecking one of our cars, but a quick look out of the window showed us that it was not a joke.

Someone had backed into a car in our car park and was already out of their car, inspecting the damage. It was clear from the debris on the tarmac, that it was a little more than a little nudge. Bits of plastic lying around and a rather nasty looking hole in the bumper were evidence of the impact.

Naturally, we expected the culprit to park up and come into the office to talk to the owner of the other car. But to our amazement, the driver had a quick look around, jumped back into their car, and drove off.

But there were a lot of witnesses to the incident and we all know who the driver was. It will be interesting to see what happens in the morning when the person gets into the office. I can imagine that there will be a deal of embarrassment when the incident is discussed.

I guess that we would like to think that the driver was in a hurry to get somewhere, and has every intention of accepting responsibility for the accident, time will tell.

Postscript: Following a little quiet encouragement, the perpetrator has exchanged details with the victim and the matter will be settled via their respective insurance brokers.

Sadly, the reputation of the perpetrator has been tarnished still further, as it appears that this is not the first occurrence of acting in this manner.

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