Self awareness, the realisation of who, or what you really are, comes to some people with age, but for me, it came at a point in life where I was at my all time low. Seeing my true reflection in the mirror was a long and painful process, there’s no joy in realising that you are someone you don’t really like, but it lead me to the turning point that has allowed me to change for the better.
It is said ‘that we hate in others, what we refuse to see in ourselves’ and I suddenly understood what that meant. Things that annoy us about other people, are sometimes the very things in us that annoy others. Being honest enough with ourselves, to admit our failings or less attractive traits, can be the start of a process of self improvement.
In Nichiren Buddhism we refer to that process as Human Revolution, the nurturing and growth of self improvement through the acquisition of wisdom, courage and compassion. It is achieved, over time, through a determined adherence to our practice and continued learning.
So next time, before you go criticising others, take a long, hard and honest look in that mirror, and have the courage to see the faults you are so desperate to hide from yourself. It will be a painful process, but you will emerge on the other side, like a butterfly emerging from the chrysalis, a better and more beautiful being for doing it.
Apr 05, 2013 @ 18:24:52
hit the nail on the head – there is a song which the mystic poets sang which i love – ‘i went looking everywhere for the person who is not good, but found him nowhere till i looked within and found him right there.
Apr 09, 2013 @ 06:04:06
I have learned what you say about others you say about yourself. When you hurt yourself, you hurt others by doing so. It’s been old habits diehard in not forgiving myself and respecting myself. In forgiving and respecting myself. I am seeing the same change in my family too as I change because of the wonder of Buddhism. How you get to Carnegie Hall??? Practice, practice, practice. Namaste.
Apr 10, 2013 @ 09:23:16
As they say … Practice makes perfect 🙂