Overcoming Obstacles

My Dark Passenger - Our Fundamental DarknessFollowing on from yesterday’s post about Human Revolution, today’s lesson from the SGI-UK website is all about overcoming the everyday problems that life throws at us. Having the confidence to tackle them head on, given to us through the process of Human Revolution, enables us to stay positive, to turn poison into medicine, to solve those problems and ultimately to live a happy and fulfilled life.

Overcoming Obstacles

This negative aspect is often referred to as the ‘three obstacles and four devils’ (in Japanese, sansho shima). Obstacles refer to things which appear to be outside of ourselves (but which ultimately have their origins in our lives) and the devils, or negative elements, are ‘internal’. What makes these obstacles and devils serious is that if we are influenced by them we may stop practising Buddhism. They confront us at a specific point in time – usually when we are about to grow in our lives and move forward. The fact that at a difficult moment we may think that we should stop practising is a sign that it is an attack of one of the three obstacles and four devils. From a positive point of view these hindrances enable us to see a weakness in our lives so that we can chant and become stronger in that area.

The first is the obstacle of earthly desires. Buddhism teaches that our earthly desires may be transformed into enlightenment. Second is the obstacle of karma, which includes the influence of those who are close to us such as a spouse, partner or children. Third is the obstacle of retribution, which means opposition from those with power over us, such as our superiors, parents or people in authority.

The devils come from within our own lives. We create our own negativity, our own doubt, uncertainty and confusion. The first devil arises from our earthly desires. It can include egoism, craving for personal fame and riches, laziness or being dominated by force of habit. It can also arise from the three poisons of greed, anger and stupidity.

Second is the devil of weakness that can arise in our own bodies, such as an illness which will hold us back and reduce our capacity. Third is the devil which manifests as the hindrance of death. Unless we are confident that death is not ‘the end’, but rather another phase in the cycle of life and death – then another person’s death can trigger a sense of doubt and can considerably weaken our will to practise Buddhism, even though Buddhism is intended to relieve us from the sufferings of birth and death.

Finally the fourth devil is known as the Devil King of the Sixth Heaven who, in Buddhist mythology, works to obstruct Buddhist practice and drain our life force. This is the manifestation of fundamental darkness inherent in life. And because of this can be seen as the most challenging aspect of negativity to conquer. When influential people persuade or threaten us to stop practising this could be said to be the workings of the Devil of the Sixth Heaven.

Whatever form they take, the Daishonin advises us to take these obstacles and devils as confirmation that we are properly practising the true Law through which ordinary people become Buddhas. They offer us insight into aspects of our human revolution, ways to strengthen our lives and assurance that we are on the verge of achieving this, so long as we are neither influenced nor frightened by them. Human revolution includes experiencing this process and transforming some aspect of ourselves. It indicates the real experience of finding we have to confront something. It also includes our need to gain the inner conviction that we can win over the obstacle in question.

In Buddhism, the term ‘fundamental darkness’ is used to describe the ignorance and delusion inherent in human life. This is the ignorance of the fact that we all have the state of Buddhahood in our lives, at all times, latent and ready to be revealed. The aim of our great struggle for kosen-rufu, our movement of human revolution, is to transform that innate darkness into light. Our goal is to vanquish the destructive tendencies within human life that give rise to mutual distrust and hate, violence and fear. The three obstacles and four devils become an indispensable means for doing this. That is why we should rejoice when they appear.

Always Keep Believing

PoisonMy progress, through my Practice, has been pretty steady and positive.

So imagine my surprise when I seemed to take a step backwards yesterday. Nothing terminal, of course, and maybe it was long overdue.

Naturally, it’s tempting to only blog my successes, the good things, and paint a rosy picture. But that wouldn’t be a true reflection of my path.

I’m not going to go into details, but I am going to use this problem to strengthen my resolve, so more poison into medicine and proof that my faith is strong..

Crisis, What Crisis?

Crisis - Danger + OpportunityWith the huge cuts in public spending, there are thousands of jobs in jeopardy. I know of several people who are busy looking for new work after losing their jobs and it is easy to feel that a personal crisis might be looming.

But there is hope in such situations. The Chinese spell the word crisis with two characters. The first means danger. The second, opportunity. So we can all look upon a crisis in two ways.

Obviously, any crisis can be a source of danger. The very word conjures up a sense of foreboding, a situation that is out of control. But with that danger comes the opportunity to make something better with the energy that comes to us all when put in a dangerous position.

The natural rise in adrenalin when we face danger, the classic fight or flight reaction, gives us superhuman levels of energy. We have all heard of stories of incidents where someone has lifted a car off a trapped friend or family member or run incredibly fast to rescue a child from danger. It’s a natural reaction, it’s nothing superhuman at all.

When we couple this energy with the Buddhist principle of turning Poison into Medicine, there can be a very real opportunity to use the situation to our own advantage. How often have you heard about people who turn an impossible situation into a an amazing success story. J.K. Rowling reportedly wrote the first Harry Potter book whilst in sheltered accommodation. Duncan Bannatyne built his business empire from scratch after coming from a less than privileged background.

Many of us need a short sharp shock to bring us out of a state of lethargy, something that sparks us into life and gives us the impetus to make huge positive changes to our lives. My own interest in Nichiren Buddhism was sparked by a sudden change in family situation, so I know that good things can come from a painful event.

If you find you are facing a crisis, take heart, remember that opportunity comes along as well as the danger, good fortune comes to those who seek it.

Painfully Sharp Focus

Poison Into MedicineEven though we have been aware that Charlotte has breast cancer for more than a week, the details of the type of cancer and the stage that it has reached, were a nasty jolt today.

Hope springs eternal, but can be dashed by a few words from a specialist. The difference between hoping something and knowing something is quite profound. Finding out that what we now know was worse than we had hoped was painful.

But the laws of the Universe demand that even when something is essentially bad, there must be an equal and opposite good, to balance the equation. Having experienced the bad, I immediately saw the good, in the bravery and stoicism of Charlotte herself.

There is at least one more consultation before Charlotte embarks on the process of healing and recuperation, so there will certainly be other twists along the way.

I will try to bring out my bodhisattva nature to help me to help Charlotte through the ups and downs that she will experience, through the power of Nam Myoho Renge Kyo. Hopefully we can turn this evil poison into medicine together.

High Contrasts

Pink RibbonToday has been a complete rollercoaster of a day, ultimate highs and lows, a day to test the faith of anyone.

My eldest daughter, Charlotte, is pregnant with her third child, my fourth grandchild and had been for a scan at the hospital. Imagine my elation when she sent a text to say that everything was fine, the baby is healthy and growing well. He or she, is due to enter this world on September 3rd, so a summer baby, wonderful.

I knew that she also had an appointment in the afternoon to have some other tests, so I was keeping my fingers crossed for everything to go well.

I was just packing up, and about to leave the office when my mobile rang.

It was Charlotte, in tears. She said that the tests had found that there is a very high possibility that she has breast cancer. The consultant had taken tissue samples and sent them off for analysis, but said that they feared the worst because of swelling of Charlotte’s lymph glands.

Cancer is such a scary word. The very thought of it sends shivers down my spine. But I am going to remain calm and not jump to any conclusions until the biopsy results are back. In such a situation it is all too easy to let your emotions get the better of you. I hope that I can avoid that happening, though time will tell, because I may be of some help and support if I can hold things together.

Obviously I will chant and pray for a positive outcome, but I will also look for ways of turning this strongest of poisons into medicine.

Nam Myoho Renge Kyo.

Turning It Around

KyoTrying to use the Buddhist principle of Poison into Medicine is easier with some things than others.

Emotional upsets are pretty straightforward, it’s a matter of seeing the bigger picture and realigning hopes, expectations and life in general to fit the situation.

ChiThis back pain is a different matter. Compared to some, my pain is a mere trifle, but I am still trying to work out how to use it to my benefit.

At times during the day, it is so painful that it makes me feel physically sick, the result of my bodies endorphins apparently.

GyoI suppose the lesson is that I should take better care of my body, lose some weight maybe, and I am starting to do that. But the results are slower in coming than I would like, so I suppose it is teaching me patience too.

IMy chanting, although it doesn’t make the pain go way completely, makes me feel energised and that is what is getting me through.

So I will persist. The alternatives are few and far between anyway, so patience, persistence and Practice will be the tools that help me reach my goal. Another case of Kyo Chi Gyo I, being focussed on the goal, rather than the pain free status I will gain once I reach it.

A Worry Resolved

Moriconium TwilightFor the best part of a year I have been putting off seeing my ex-wife because I feared it would bring back all the heartache and pain of the separation and divorce. So knowing that she was coming to see me today had been a worry for a few days.

I need not have been so negative about it. On a beautifully sunny winters day, we took our little Bischon Frise, Chelsea, for a nice long walk along the coast and as we walked, we talked.

I think it would be fair to say that we had both harboured preconceived ideas about how things might turn out, there was a lot of hurt on both sides, but in the event, things went very well.

The talking cleared the air, I think we were both open and honest about what we felt and how the split had affected us. But agreeing that nobody can change the past, as indeed, nobody could have predicted our future at the time of the break-up, left a calmness in the relationship that maybe neither of us could have foreseen.

Coupled with a light pub lunch, in the dog-friendly local, it made for an enjoyable afternoon, so when she set off home, I was left wondering why I had build it up, in my own mind, to be such a problem in the first place.

Feeling much relieved, I came back into the apartment to find the magnificent sunset you see in the photograph above. It seemed quite a fitting conclusion.

Moral of the story … don’t prejudge situations, talking solves a lot of issues and is the only way to move forward. Turning Poison (the worry) into Medicine has yet again been the way through the situation, chalk up another win for Buddhism, further proof that my Practice is working.

Get It Sorted

Grrrrr !!!Have you ever had a problem or situation that has been there for a while, but you can’t drum up the enthusiasm to fix? I know you have, we all have.

Maybe enthusiasm is not the right word, maybe confidence is a better one. Maybe you should have made a phone call or gone to meet someone, but you know they aren’t going to be too pleased to hear from you when you do.

When I say you know, it’s probably more accurate to say you imagine, you suppose, see what I mean? We all build up little scenarios in our heads, and the more often we think about the problem, the more convinced we become, that our imagined outcome is what will actually happen.

This is where we need a bit of Wisdom, Courage and Compassion.

We need the Wisdom to see that what we imagine is the version of events from our point of view, and may be way off. We also need to accept that any problem that is left to fester, will only get worse and never go away by itself.

We need a deal of Courage to put ourselves into a situation that may be awkward, embarrassing or painful (hopefully not physically). Picking up that phone, or ringing that door bell, when we are unsure of the reception, takes guts. But remember that the alternative may be even worse.

Now we need a huge dollop of Compassion. The fact that we have put off doing something about this issue probably means that we feel that we are in the wrong, in some way. So we need to steel ourselves for a potential tirade, whilst remaining calm and sympathetic. We need to understand the problem from the other persons point of view. That will take a dialogue of some nature, and maintaining a compassionate nature may help defuse the situation. We need to bite our tongue when we may feel like giving a little back. I don’t mean a complete capitulation, more a flexible approach to understanding their side of things.

I imagine that each and every person who reads this has an issue, be it large or small, that falls into this category. Only you know what it is, so gird your loins, take a deep breath, and get it sorted today. You’ll feel a lot better when you do, believe me, I know from experience.

Nam Myoho Renge Kyo

Inner Strength

BuddhaBefore I became aware of Nichiren Buddhist, through Jason and Karen Jarrett’s A Buddhist Podcast initially, I found disappointments very difficult to handle.

I have always been prone to setting my expectations too high, and that leads to disappointment when the expectation isn’t met. My Dad, on the other hand, always seemed to be a little pessimistic, he never appeared to have very high expectations, never got overexcited about anything, so didn’t allow himself to feel disappointment, or that was the way it looked to me.

Since I have been practicing Nichiren Buddhism I have an inner strength that helps me through difficult times. It is a great comfort and I would recommend it to anyone who is struggling with issues or problems.

The strange thing is that Buddhism doesn’t always make the problems go away, although that does sometimes happen, but it gives me a different way of looking at the situation and a focus that makes the problems more easy to understand and to bear.

In general, my life has been very easy. I have a very loving family, great parents and had a very stable home life in my formative years. I’ve been through a few troughs, the usual things like losing my grandparents, my father and failed relationships, the same as every one else. I’m not looking to test my practice to that extent, but I truly believe that my inner strength will see me able to cope with such times much better now.

If I were to try to pinpoint the single most important reason for this, I would say it was a new found mental calm. I’ve never been a fighter. At school I used to use humour to get out of the usual scrapes all kids get into. But I was prone to letting my feeling show, particularly when disappointment was involved.

Now, because I can see the situation from all angles, just like those reviews on the web, where you can spin the item around and look at it every which way, I can rationalise more easily. Being able to see a situation from other peoples perspective allows me to make sense of how things appear to them, and understand why they are reacting in the way they are.

It has changed my life, or at least the way I look at it, and it can help anyone. Maybe it could help you.

My Bodhisattva Nature

On a day that was originally planned as a time for rest and reflection, it’s turned out anything but.

It was a day of a continuous stream of poison, most of which was turned into medicine, as I concentrated on staying calm to help others and be supportive.

Apart from the terrible weather, the family illness created an understandable sadness in the air.

My Bodhisattva nature came to the fore and, apart from the compassionate support, I gave away my copy of The Buddha, Geoff and Me to a very worthy recipient.

Tomorrow will be a lot calmer as I have the place to myself, but the poison may well be there, ready to be turned into yet more medicine.

I don’t actively seek out problems, but it does give you a good feeling when you can confront them head on and manage to remain calm.

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