Lessons Learned

World PeaceAs we are all well aware, today is the tenth anniversary of the September 11th attack on the World Trade Centre towers in New York. At the time of the attack, I was working for an American company and vividly remember the shock and outrage at the devastation and loss caused on that fateful day.

The most serious act of terrorism on American soil had a huge effect on the American psyche and the realisation that they were not immune to such attacks made them sit up and think about their role in world affairs. But were the lessons of the day really learned?

Listening and watching the plethora of media reports about the attack appear to have concentrated on the mistakes made leading up to the event itself. How the CIA and FBI failed to communicate the known terrorist threat to each other effectively. How the terrorists themselves were identified, but still allowed to board the planes, and how the allies of the Northern Alliance on the Afghanistan / Pakistan border were let down after promises of cooperation had been made.

I’m sure those lessons have, to some extent, been learned, and that anti-terrorist measures, particularly focussed around aviation, have been increased. But have the reasons identified about why the attacks were perpetrated even been acknowledged? It is clear, that in the middle East and in many parts of Asia, the Americans are hated, and are seen as a country of militaristic empire builders, using brute force to manipulate the political and economic situations within countries thousands of miles from their shores.

If we, the human race, are ever to reach a state of peace and understanding, to be able to live together on this amazing planet in harmony, we have to embrace the differences between our nations, our societies and our religions. We have to nurture the wisdom, the courage and the compassion with which we interact. We must change our way of thinking on both sides, from what can we gain from them, to what can we do to help them.

The ultimate success, in this whole process, would be when we reach the point where the very concept of we and them is no longer perceived. We are all human, we are all us, and the sooner we see this basic fact, the sooner we can start creating a world of harmony. Let us all hope, that in the next tens years, there is real progress and that the people lost to their families and friends on September 11th 2001 did not die in vain.

Back To Basics

The Global SocietyA society that has sacrificed so much to material wealth that is has forgotten the human heart and the best of human aspirations, degenerates into something compassionless, doctrinaire, ignorant and ultra-conservative. When this happens, fundamental solutions to the issues of that society become impossible. If we protect the truth and are resolute, we are capable of creating peace and prosperity, and the truth that we should be protecting has to be high and great.

The great truth of Nichiren Buddhism, the thing that we must do our utmost to protect, involves ethics and the very best of human nature. At the very heart of this lies our duty to protect the truth of life, the truth that we are all one with the universe, and that every single human thought contains the entirety of universal life.

All the talk, this week, about 9/11, al Qaeda, terrorists and political strife fails to address the fact that we are all one, connected by our membership of the global society, and that the only solution to such deep seated issues is that of human revolution. If we all conduct ourselves with wisdom, courage and compassion for others, there are no issues that are beyond solving.

Every Life Is Sacred?

Human DNASurely the ultimate measure of a civilised society is the way it considers the sanctity of life itself. As civilised human beings we believe that the right to life of another person is beyond question, or do we? Two back to back news items, on the BBC tonight, tend to suggest that we do not, that the value of any two lives can be measured against each other, and ultimately be found to be different.

The first item of news was about a young student, Steven Grisales, who was stabbed to death by a 15 year old boy, after he confronted a group of youths who were throwing conkers at him. The second was the report of the acquittal of Cecil Coley after he had stabbed a 30 year old man who was robbing his shop. The man, Gary Mullings, later died of his wounds and Coley was charged with his murder.

So the two murders differ in their context, but a life has been lost in each one. Was one life that of an innocent victim, the other of a thug who ‘deserved’ what he got? I’m not sure, and I certainly do not know enough about the incidents to pontificate over the rights and wrongs.

I just found it amazing that the two stories were reported in such a different manner, and that the contrasts were so vivid. Read the stories for yourself, via the links above, and see what you think.

The Eye Of The Beholder

Not The Mona LisaA great work of art is one that truly moves and inspires you. The test is when you yourself are moved. Don’t look at art with anyone else’s eyes. Don’t listen to music with others’ ears. You should view art with your own feelings, your own heart and mind.

If you allow yourself to be swayed by the opinions of others, ‘It must be good, because everyone else is raving about it’ or ‘It must be bad, because nobody else likes it’, your feelings, your sensibilities, even your confidence, which are the basis of every artistic experience, may wither and die.

To enjoy art to the fullest, you must abandon any preconceived notions, and look at things through fresh eyes. You should then confront the work directly, with your whole being. If you find that you are deeply moved, then for you, that is a great work of art.

Precisely the same applies to your faith. What moves you is a personal thing, it should not be based on what other people feel, nor should they influence you in any way. Have the wisdom, courage and compassion to stand firm and hold onto your own beliefs.

The Right Path

Moral CompassWe all have to find our own path to enlightenment. One person’s way may not be that of another, but we all have a path, if we take the time, and have the courage to find it.

Everyone has the right to flower, to reveal his or her full potential as human beings and to fulfil their particular mission in this world. You have this right, as does everyone else.

This is the meaning of human rights. To scorn, violate and abuse people’s human rights destroys the natural order of things. Valuing human rights and showing respect for other people are amongst our most important tasks.

Give Me Wisdom

Horse To WaterTwo of the closest people in my life are struggling with almost impossible situations. They are in positions where it seems that whichever way they choose, they will lose. Whilst I am in no position to influence either of them directly, I would like to help them if I can.

To do so, I need a great deal of wisdom, more than I feel I have at my disposal. I have chanted and prayed for an answer, or even a snippet of an answer, that I might pass on, but nothing seems to come to me. I know that I need to keep chanting, that with time an answer will reveal itself, but in the meantime I have to watch the pain they are feeling, continue.

I have no training in being a therapist or a counsellor, and maybe being so close to these people is a hindrance rather than a help. Maybe I should suggest that they seek out the help of such a professional, maybe they already have done so, but that seems to be ducking the issue.

We all have situations for which we search and search for answers. I seem to be much better at solving my own problems, now I have my faith to fall back on. I know that the answers to their problems lie within their own hearts, so I might suggest that they start looking there.

At the end of the day, all I am seeking to do, is to relieve them of their unhappiness. I know that if they could gain the faith that I have found, the answers would come more easily. But as I have said before, you can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make it drink.

The Purpose Of Prayer

Our Chosen PathIt is important to remember that our prayers reflect our state of life. In that respect, prayer is a solemn means to raise our life-state or condition. To receive exactly the results for which we are praying, it is crucial to make a determined, single minded effort toward that goal.

This is the true path of manifesting faith in our daily life. Those of us who proceed along this narrow path, day after day, month after month, year after year, will develop, without fail. Just as a sapling grows into a mighty tree, to become a person of outstanding strength and character,one with wisdom, courage and compassion, relies on us remaining true to our chosen path.

Being Yourself

Relationship IssuesWhen we find ourselves in stressful situations, we often find ourselves acting in ways which are both damaging and unhelpful. When relationships hit problems our hearts may rule our heads and we may find we do not recognise ourselves in the way we react.

Fortunately I am not talking of my own situation, rather that of a very close friend, but the signs are all evident. In the same way as we are unable to see our own eyelashes, because they are too close, my friend cannot see these signs, because they are too close to the situation.

From a Buddhist viewpoint, we may see these situations as a chance to learn, to turn poison into medicine. As Sensei says …

“Relationship problems are opportunities to grow and mature. Such problems can be character building if you don’t let them defeat you. That’s why it’s important not to isolate yourself. No one can exist apart from others. Remaining aloof from others cultivates selfishness, which accomplishes nothing.”

I know from experience that it is often easier to offer advice than to accept it. Offering advice, when it is not being accepted, requires a lot of wisdom, courage and compassion. But that is no excuse to throw in the towel. I will continue to ‘be there’ for my friend, listening when needed, being subjective, though supportive and chanting for the wisdom to offer advice to help them resolve their situation.

I think my initial advice should be, be true to your heart, be yourself and try, where possible, to see the bigger picture. Easy to say, not so easy to do, but well worth trying.

Happy Families

Happy FamiliesWhat a brilliant day! The beautiful drive to Bristol, first thing in the morning, with amazing views made green and pleasant by the recent rains was quick and easy.

The day had a definite football theme to it. Following breakfast we went off to Longwell Green community centre for Jake’s football training. A little kick around with Zach was fun and Jake was proud to have scored three goals in his practice game.

Charlotte has started the second phase of her chemotherapy, and is looking very tired. Her hubby Rob, also looked pretty drawn, but he is a real star in the way he is keeping everything together. It’s really difficult to see your child looking tired and poorly, even knowing that the reason behind it is all for a very good cause. But it was wonderful to meet my new grandson, Oliver, and to see the how his birth has kept her positive and given a reason to dig deep and carry on.

Hannah and Stanley came round and it was fun to watch the way the boys interact together. They seem to understand each other, even though the little two aren’t even two yet. After lunch, Hannah took Zach for the afternoon, and Rob, Jake and I went off to pick up Barry to go the watch Bristol Rovers, so that Charlotte could have a restful afternoon.

It was my first visit to the Memorial ground, and although the result wasn’t what the Rovers fans had hoped for, it was a nice way to spend the afternoon. Following a few slices of pizza and a final kiss and cuddle with Charlotte and the boys, it was time to wend my way back to Poole, the end of a great day of happy families.

The Gift Of Freedom

The Gift Of FreedomYesterday we spoke of responsibility, individual responsibility, and how taking responsibility for your actions is a major part of moving your life forward towards your chosen goals. But responsibility is a gift, whether you realise it or not, and having responsibility for the actions you take is very precious.

Think about the millions of people around the world who dream of having such a gift. These people live under conditions where their lives are controlled by the regimes governing their countries. Because they have no control, they never know the gift of responsibility.

Even though there are often comments about our ‘Nanny State’, we live in one of the most liberal, most accepting countries in the world. With that freedom comes the responsibility to act in a manner that show wisdom, courage and compassion, failure to do so risks us all losing that most precious gift.

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