Seeing Both Sides

London Riots We have all been shocked by the street violence in London and other major cities over the past couple of days. Groups of youths looting and setting fire to shops, cars and houses for the ‘fun’ of it. It’s disgraceful and one has to feel sympathy for the owners and the police who are having to deal with it. But let us, for one minute, see things from the youths point of view.

Many, if not all of them, come from deprived backgrounds, maybe going back several generations, and they realistically have no hope of any improvement. They see these premises as easy targets, owned by rich people or companies, in their eyes, and are using them as the target of their frustration and anger. Whilst not condoning any of their actions, it is all too easy to take the blinkered view and blame it all on mindless individuals.

These people are going through the same recession we all face every day. Many have no work, no money and more importantly, no hope. Who can really blame them for lashing out? I hope sense prevails, that the police take back control of the streets, and that the innocent victims are fully recompensed for their losses. But I also hope that our politicians see the wider picture, and make more of an effort to support the youth of this country. If nothing is done we should not be surprised if incidents like this become commonplace.

Positive Result

OliverSo our little man is finally home. Fantastic news from every point of view, and cause for understandable jubilation in the Savage and Blake households.

Obviously I am over the moon too, but more than that, I am so proud that Charlotte has dug deep and remained positive throughout the entire process. To imagine that there were people suggesting she should take the ‘easy’ way out, look after herself, and terminate the pregnancy is now unbelievable.

But Charlotte was determined to have her baby, the little chap we now call Oliver. She went through mental anguish, wondering whether she was making the right decision. Well today we all know that she did. The situation with her chemotherapy is ongoing, and there will good days and bad days, but today is one of the very best of good days!

Super Sunday

SunshineIt’s been a really super Sunday. It started with an hour’s Gongyo, followed by a half hour chat to a very good friend and it just got better and better.

The sun has shone through beautiful billowing white clouds and it has been a wonderful day, weather wise. The stroll through Hamworthy park and on to Poole quay was very pleasant and everyone seemed to be sporting a broad smile in the sunshine.

Follow that up with a cracking Charity Shield match, a scary horror movie, all topped off with a huge thunderstorm this evening, and the day has been pretty much complete. I still have no proper broadband, so the posts are bit short and sweet, but I hope Sky will meet or beat their 17th deadline for activation.

Confidence

ConfidenceWhat would you say if I told you that I have come to believe that my own practice, practiced in my own way, gives me courage, wisdom and compassion. That I believe that we must all follow our own path and that being lead, or listening too intently to others can confuse and distract us.

We must all be true to ourselves, and decide the path we must take in our own way. To allow others to cajole us into being or doing something that is foreign to our nature is to forfeit our integrity.

Take a moment to look at your own situation and decide whether you are compromising your own integrity. If you find that you are, you might want to reconsider your own path and take steps to get back on track.

Imagination – MEF’s Best Friend

Dark PassengerDo you ever find yourself getting into a state over a situation that is mainly in your own head? If your world is not anchored by your faith and is dependant on factors outside your control, your imagination can run riot. Our Fundamental Darkness, or My Evil Friend, is a devious character and will use everything tot get it’s way. Your imagination is one of it’s most powerful weapons.

This is how I was until I found Nichiren Buddhism, and it is a very precarious state in which to live. Each day can be up, or down, at the whim of something or someone else, and that’s no life. Particularly if that something or someone cannot be relied upon.

Taking back control of your life is simple, it is a state of mind, a determination to re-centre, re-focus your life. That certainly doesn’t mean that you have to rid yourself of the something or someone, and it doesn’t mean that your relationship with them is any less important. It’s just that your life centres around something infinitely stable, and that can make all the difference in the world.

My anchor, my honzon is my practice, and I’m a better, calmer, more contented person for that. I am happier for that, and at the end of the day, isn’t that what we all seek from life, a little more happiness?

Oh No !!!

Even Nichiren on Sado Island had ADSLI’m having a lot of trouble getting onto t’internet at the moment.

Changing ISP can be such a traumatic experience, but it won’t last forever.

This post will be replaced as soon as normal service is resumed.

Resilience

BarleyThere is a saying that the earth upon which we fall is the same ground which enables us to push ourselves back up again. There is another which maintains that barley grows better after it has been trampled on.

Human relationships are sometimes painful, but there is no such thing as pain from which we cannot recover. It is up to us to decide to live a life free from self doubt and despair in spite of our doubts and failures.

Indeed, it is during our most humbling moments that we should show the greatest poise and grace. Then the dignity of our lives will truly shine forth.

Connections

BambooDetermined people of conviction, who stand alone, who pursue their chosen path. Not only are such people good and trustworthy friends themselves, but will also make genuine friends of others.

The bamboo groves of the autumn are gorgeous. Each bamboo tree stands independently, growing straight and tall towards the sky. Yet in the ground, way out of sight, their roots are interwoven and interconnected.

In the same way, true friendship is not a relationship based upon dependence, but one of individual independence. It is the enduring bond that connects self-reliant individuals, comrades who share the same commitment, on a spiritual plane.

Busy, Busy, Busy

Caring HandsHaving my mate back in the office today was great, he’s been away looking after his wife and his new baby and we’ve missed him.

Not going into details, but he also has other problems going on, and it really makes you realise that although we have problems of our own, life isn’t so bad really.

Life is actually just a series of problems, or challenges, and our job is to face these situations and having solved them, come out of the other side, stronger and wiser. Today has been super busy, so it was a fine balance of being supportive and caring, while dealing with as much of the work without taking up any of his time.

While it is very laudable to confront problems in person, there is no shame in having a little help. The difficulty from the other side is offering support without being intrusive. So maybe the very epitome of Wisdom, Courage and Compassion.

Having the courage to offer support in the first place, the wisdom to know where to draw the line and the compassion to show sensitivity in delicate situations.

Interactions

Twin Sails Bridge - Poole, DorsetIt’s been a weekend filled with interaction, just simple conversations with a number of people I never met before, just because they, and I, were in the right place at the right time.

Like Clive the retired SAP guru, now caring for his disabled wife, who I met while out delivering a letter that had come to my address by mistake. Or the chap from Stafford, who transports potatoes from France to the UK and who was interested in the new Twin Sails Bridge being built in Poole, while we waited for the old bridge to close. Even the couple who were walking their daughters dog in Hamworthy Park and wanted to chat about everything from being Polish immigrants 50 years ago, to how much they loved being grandparents and having time to enjoy them now they were retired.

When we interact with others with true sincerity, the other person will, more often than not, come to respect and value our own character. And this is all the more so when our actions are based on prayer.

Conversely, holding others in contempt only leads to being held in contempt ourselves. One whose life is tainted by feelings of hate towards others will come to be reviled by those they detest.

Let us open the path to mutual respect and harmonious coexistence, so as to bring an end to the vicious circle that has long been part of human destiny. This surely is a major part of our Human Revolution.

I thoroughly enjoyed my impromptu conversations, accepting these people at face value. Interactions are the spice that gives our lives flavour, so take time to talk to a stranger soon.

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