The Best Laid Plans

ButsudanTonight, ten of us attended the study group at Jayne and Ken Hawkins’ flat in Sandbanks.

The meeting had been planned by the Youth Division, there were several young people there and the topic had been set based around several poems about youth and the importance of youthfulness. The youth of today are, after all, the future.

We started to discuss a couple of the poems, but one lady, who had practiced Nichiren Buddhism in her youth, rather derailed the discussions when she started to explain that she had been rather ill, both physically and mentally. She wanted to know why she was being punished and told us that there were times when she felt she just could not face the future.

Whilst it wasn’t the planned discussion, it gave us all the opportunity to show our support and to help her see that she wasn’t being punished, that is was simply her karma to be suffering in the way she is.

Ken pointed out, that although she had been through some very difficult times, that was in the past and by focussing on the future, and making the right causes, that she could be confident of a much better future. We all tried to explain that the future was under her control.

I don’t think that this single meeting will change her current plight, but it will, if she is supported and resumes her practice, be the trigger for her to create a much better future for herself. After all, we are responsible for our own lives, and for creating the causes for the happiness we wish in our lives.

The meeting ended and I had offered Simon, the head of the youth division in Poole, a lift home. I had no idea that he had been cured, or rather, had cured himself, of Hodgkin Lymphoma, a form of cancer that attacks the body’s lymphatic system.

Whilst Charlotte’s cancer is slightly different, it had spread to the lymph glands under her arm, so is similar. Simon was very helpful and during the journey to Bournemouth, jotted down several natural remedies as well as some useful website addresses for me.

So an evening that was intended to be all about youth, turned into a support group for one of the members and a fact finding mission, albeit unwittingly, about cures and treatments for Charlotte’s condition.

When we chant, it always brings results, but as I have said on so many occasions, not always the results you might expect.

Nam Myoho Renge Kyo.

6 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Joey Wilson
    Mar 23, 2011 @ 11:37:55

    The best laid plans I am seeing are never written in concrete, for your new discovery may never had happened had someone mentioned they couldn’t carry on another day. I’ve have just begun my new journey in life and have gone days feeling masterful, peaceful, loving and self happy. However, my new found spitituality that I’ve been missing all my life is cause for strife for my family. My new found spirituality, for the first time in my life bothers them. I think they notice a difference in the person I used to be. I’ve lacked spirituality for 28 years, now I want to better my personality and my inner peace. My girlfriend has noticed a positive change in my attitude, my emotions and daily interactions. Why does my new found spirituality bother them, that is there problem. I am loving my new direction in life and hoping that my new attitude and choices in my life, they are new directions in my life. I’ve always taken the easy road and we all know where that leads. I am taking my own road for the first time in my life. The road was pitch black and now I am just starting to break through midnight.

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    • Anupadin
      Mar 23, 2011 @ 12:01:01

      Hi Joey, I know how you feel about others having problems with your new path. It may be true that the problems are their own, but my guess is that they are caused through ignorance of what your path involves. People are generally averse to change, even when it might be for the better. Because of the Oneness of Self and the Environment, as you change, they have to change too, and that may cause a few problems initially. I would take time, even more time than usual, to explain to them exactly what you are doing. Let them know that it is in everyone’s interest that you grow spiritually and reassure them by telling them what the practice entails and how it has helped you thus far.

      I have a similar situation here. My mother is a Methodist, and was a Sunday school teacher before she retired, so has very strong faith and attends church very regularly. Although she is happy that I have a faith in Nichiren Buddhism, she is not very keen to explore the details of the religion. You have to let people take their time to adjust. Maybe they are afraid that you will try to ‘convert’ them. I know how excited and verbal I can be about the amazing transformation in my life. I think we all need to be a little careful not to overpower people with our enthusiasm.

      I am so happy for you, and your newfound path. It will, undoubtedly, make you a happier person, and that happiness will permeate your life and the lives of everyone around you. That has to be a good thing, doesn’t it?

      Nam Myoho Renge Kyo.

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      • Joey Wilson
        Mar 25, 2011 @ 09:43:14

        The more I study, the more my world becomes more clearer. Your explanation has help me concerning family and change. I now remember that I am enriching my personal enlightenment. I haven’t as yet had a chance to talk to my family as of yet. It is true that through buddism, it has given me some very helpful tools do cope with everyday like never before. It shows me that it doesn’t take away the problems of dealing with everyday and doesn’t solve your problems. Your spirit is what drives you to live and now that my spirit is lifting little by little each day. As fas as converting them, that is the farthest thing from my mind. I just want to better my inner peace and spirit that I misplaced in my heart for far to long now. I need to be happy and time heal all wounds. And that is what life is mostly made up of, TIME. What you do with you time and how you spend it your will let you choose your own path. Use the time or loose it. It’s not just time your losing if you waste it. Thanks for reassuring me that my own path shouldn’t affect my own spiritual path. Joey Wilson

  2. moe219
    Mar 23, 2011 @ 14:26:56

    Interesting post. Two questions… 1. Is your understanding of karma that she is sick because of the conditions of her existence (genes, atmosphere, etc) or her sickness as a result of her actions in this or a past life? 2. What was it like for the youth to talk about being youths? Was there any insightful self realization in the conversation? Analyzing our place in the world is hard, but especially for young people.

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    • Anupadin
      Mar 23, 2011 @ 15:48:41

      Q1. My understanding of all karma, is that it is the result of all the causes, good or bad, that a being has made during this and previous lives. So I believe it is the result of her thoughts or actions.

      Q2. Sadly, the youths didn’t get much time to talk about being youths, because the lady who ‘highjacked’ the meeting took up most of the time. They did mention that Daisaku Ikeda gives much of his time and energy to helping the Youth of SGI as he believes that they are the future of the SGI.

      I think we can all relate to your last statement.

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