Be The Sunshine

Be The Sunshine

Life has it’s ups and downs, as we all know. Little things can make friends and family members unhappy or even depressed, so make it your job to make them feel better.

There are so many people, so many lives on this planet, too numerous, in fact, to count.

From this great multitude, we wondrously find ourselves together with those in our families, as parents and children, as brothers and sisters, as husbands and wives.

If we do not live joyfully and cheerfully with whom we share this profound bond, what is life for?

Should the atmosphere at home be sombre, you can be the ‘sunshine’. By being a shining presence, you can cast the light of hope on your mother, father, children and indeed all of your family and friends.

Family Treasure Hunting

Where's Wallace?Having spent much of yesterday with Rob and Jay, today was all about doing things with all the family. Aardman Animation, the creators of Wallace and Gromit is based in Bristol and Wallace and Gromit are the faces of ‘The Grand Appeal’ raising money for Bristol’s Children’s Hospital.

Salty Sea DogThere are 80 Gromits, of varying designs, being shown in and around Bristol for a total of 10 weeks, and Charlotte, Rob and the boys have been doing their best to find them all and get photos.

So that was our quest for the day, to find as many of the remaining Gromits and take photographic evidence that we had seen them. They are dotted all over the city, in public places outdoors as well as in buildings such as the Bristol Library and the Marriot Hotel, so finding them is great fun.

CaroselloOf course there are dozens, if not hundreds, of other families all trying to do the same thing, so there was usually a wait to get that special photo, but it was worth it.

There was a fair bit of walking involved, no problem for those of us who are fully grown and have long, strong legs, but for the smaller members of our party it got a bit tiring after a while.

But the weather was kind, it was warm, but not too warm, with a refreshing breeze and the occasional cloud to offer some respite from the midday sunshine.

By about two the boys had had about enough. After all, they have been Gromit hunting for a couple of weeks now, so the novelty was worn off a little, so we said our goodbyes and Hannah, Stanley and I made our way back to Hanham.

It was a brilliant day, spending quality time with the whole Bristol clan, and we really must do it much more often.

Poetry In Motion

Fulfilment

HappinessUltimately, happiness rests on how you establish a solid sense of self or being. Happiness does not lie in outward appearances or vanity. It is a matter of what you feel inside, it is a deep resonance in your life.

To be filled each day with a rewarding sense of exhilaration and purpose, a sense of tasks accomplished and deep fulfilment, when you feel this way, you are happy.

What is more, those who have this sense of satisfaction, even when they are busy and under pressure, are much happier than those who have nothing to do, all the time in the world, but feel empty inside.

You Lookin’ At Me ???

You Lookin' At Me?Before we go any further, this post is not aimed at anyone in particular, though if the cap fits, as they say …

Having the energy to argue is a sign of good health. When two people in a relationship share similar conditions, it is only natural that they will lock horns from time to time.

If on the other hand, one begins to outgrow the other, then they will probably not have serious confrontations, because their life-states are so different.

It would be great if we could live cheerfully, enjoying life to the extent where we regard our partners nagging as a sign of their good health and proof that they are still alive and kicking. If we can develop a broad state of life together, then even our partner’s ranting and raving will sound like sweet birdsong.

Determination

DeterminedDetermination grows out of adversity. To accomplish an easy or pleasant task does not require determination, it is the difficult or unpleasant task that most definitely does.

Dreams don’t come true on their own. Determination is required to achieve the things we set out to accomplish and to keep things going in the face of discouragement.

The essential purpose of Buddhism is to make people happy. True happiness is the result of consistent effort and constant growth as a human being.

Remind yourself every day, why you are pursuing your goal. Self doubt and negative thoughts are the making of your fundamental darkness. Confront your inner demons and tell them that you are going to overcome them. Take heart and strength from your Practice, chanting Nam Myoho Renge Kyo will raise your life-energy and help you focus on the task in hand. Remember, nobody ever felt satisfaction from giving up on their dreams.

And keep this in mind when times get tough …

When your determination increases, everything else begins to move in the direction you desire. The moment you resolve to be victorious, every nerve and fibre in your being immediately orient themselves toward your success.

Nam Myoho Renge Kyo.

The Road Less Travelled

Fork In The RoadThere are times in one’s life when a situation presents you with a ‘damned if you do, damned if you don’t’ decision.

Such a dilemma has been around the family for the past few months, where no matter which way the outcome goes, somebody is going to be unhappy.

At such times it is all too easy to be lead by your heart, hoping that the happiness you gain will offset the unhappiness of others. On the other hand, the unhappiness you may cause to others could easily put a dark cloud over your own feelings, not just for the immediate future, but for eternity.

In this situation, the final decision will not even be in the individuals own hands, making it doubly difficult. We are all keen to having our destiny under our own control, so relinquishing it to someone else just adds to the feelings of angst.

My gut feeling, and my Buddhist teaching tell me that, in general, we should sacrifice our own feelings so that others do not have to, but time will tell how it is resolved.

Mulling it all over and over in my mind, knowing that whichever way things turn out, we will never know whether it was for the best, reminded me of the poem by Robert Frost.

The Road Not Taken

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveller, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less travelled by,
And that has made all the difference.

Robert Frost (1874-1963)

Life Is A Joy

The Lotus SutraWe only have to watch the news on TV, listen to the radio, even simply talk to the people around us, to be aware of the challenges and sadness that can accompany the process of living our daily lives.

Buddhism has at it’s very core, the ultimate goal of removing suffering and promoting a state of happiness in all those with whom it comes in contact. Many may think that this is an unachievable target, and that those who strive towards it are deluded.

But the principles and method for attaining such a state are encompassed by teachings contained in The Lotus Sutra. That is not to say that there is any magic bullet or instant fix to alleviate our suffering, but striving to do so is surely a task worth undertaking.

Daisaku Ikeda summarised it thus:

What is true joy in life?

This is a difficult question – and one that has occupied a great many thinkers and philosophers.

Joy can quickly give way to suffering. Joy is short and suffering long.

Also what passes for joy in society is superficial. It cannot compare with the joy derived from the Mystic Law.

The key then lies in cultivating a state of mind where we can declare without reservation that life is a joy.

This is the purpose of our Buddhist Practice.

Nam Myoho Renge Kyo.

Scream If You Want To Go Faster

The Roller Coaster Of LifeWhoever said that life was supposed to be a bowl of cherries? Our journey from birth to death, whichever lap we happen to be on at any one time, is a series of lows and highs, the rough and the smooth, the not-so-happy and the happy, the bad and the good.

So by assuming that, even though things may be going along smoothly just now, we should prepare ourselves for the next pot hole, the unexpected hairpin or that most untimely puncture that will most certainly come along, to make that journey even more satisfying. Being prepared, as all boy scouts know, is the trick to reducing the effect that these unforeseen circumstances will have on our progress.

We have often talked about turning poison into medicine, using the difficulties in life as our way of making ourselves stronger, and seeing obstacles as challenges rather than problems. The old adage of ‘what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger’ is exactly right, if we approach these things in the right manner. Being doggedly determined not to be beaten, to meet the challenges head on and win through, come hell or high water, is a great start and a great way to move on.

Imagine how disappointed we would all be, if the latest ride at Alton Towers was a perfectly straight, perfectly level piece of track, that started slowly, trundled along at walking pace, and gradually slowed to a genteel halt five minutes later. Who in their right mind would queue for something so predictable, so comfortable, so boring? Nobody I know.

The most popular rides, the ones that have the longest queues, and the ones that we want to get back on, time after time, are the ones that scare us witless, the ones that actually make us wonder if we will live to tell the tale. And that is how life can be if we prepare ourselves for the turns, the plunges, the unexpected. The greatest books, films and life stories are all about facing almost impossible adversity, battling against the odds, getting the odd knock along the way, but coming out as the victor in the end.

So face up to the rigours of life, meet those challenges head on, stay strong, be brave and make your life the subject of the greatest story Hollywood has ever told.

The Missing Link

The Missing LinkSometimes I find the effects of the causes I make rather surprising. I was examining the possibility of making a temporary fix to the rear suspension on my mountain bike, just enough to get me to and from Steve’s BBQ this afternoon. The problem had occurred earlier in the week, but having ordered a replacement part, nothing had arrived.

So there I was, wiring some foam rubber to the frame of the bike, hoping that it would prevent any damage to the frame, from where the shock absorber was touching it. I had almost finished, when the clatter from the letterbox announced the timely arrival of the new link, perfect.

The new part is clearly a re-engineered item, the original had failed at the weakest point, and the new one is considerably more substantial. No wonder the guy in the spares department was surprised that I had managed to break the original. The new design made fitting it to the bike a little tricky, but soon it was sorted.

The eleven mile trip over to Steve’s was fun, but I was riding into the wind the whole way, which made an already warm day feel even warmer. A short pit stop for a glass of water and a chat with Ken and Jayne in Sandbanks was very welcome. We haven’t seen each other for way too long, but we will put that right from now on.

Although the promenade from Sandbanks to Bournemouth pier is as flat as a pancake, progress was a bit slow, simply down to the number of people out enjoying the sunshine. I remarked to another cyclist that it was a bit like a video game, with the aim being to find the next gap in the oncoming stream of bodies, most of whom seemed totally oblivious of anything going on around them. None were harmed during the making of this journey.

It may be me, but I find Charminster a most confusing place, and get lost there all the time. Today however, my unplanned route lead me directly past the Sakya Thubten Ling Tibetan Buddhist Centre in Shelbourne Road. The group were having a fund raising market, so I stopped and had a guided tour of the shrine as well as a nice chat with Sue, one of the members. It’s interesting how we all have faith in Shakyamuni’s teachings, but interpret them in slightly, or not so slightly different ways.

The BBQ was great, Steve doing a sterling job of cooking the burgers on the grill and Carly doing an equally fine effort with the chicken and ribs in the oven. The whole event was accompanied by a most entertaining performance of Riley and his amazing paddling pool. You would not imagine that a two year old could invent so many ways of playing with cheese puffs, bread rolls, plastic balls and slightly murky water. He had a lot of fun.

Time flies when you are enjoying yourself, doesn’t it? One minute it was just after six, the next it was getting on for half past eight, and having no cycle lights with me, I said my thankyous and goodbyes and set off back to Poole. Having been given directions and now having the wind at my back, I was home a tad after nine, none the worse for the trip.

Sandbanks Sunset

So another wonderful sunny day, plenty of exercise melded with some great social interaction as well as an impromptu visit to the Buddhist centre, wonderful.

That Warm Feeling

Heaven And HellA man was offered the chance to visit Heaven and Hell. Upon entering Hell he was greeted by the sight of an infinitely long room filled with tables laden with the finest of foods, meat, fruit, wine and all manner of delicacies. But around the tables sat groups of starving people, crying out in their hunger. He realised that each person was holding a spoon, but the spoons were so long that they were unable to feed themselves.

He then went to Heaven and was surprised to see exactly the same scene. The same room was filled with the same tables, covered with the same food. But this time, around the tables sat groups of well fed, happy people. They too were holding spoons, the same length as those poor souls in Hell. The difference was that these people were feeding each other and so could eat as much as their hearts desired.

Here on Earth, that might just be the difference between our own personal Heaven or Hell. Helping others, in Buddhism, also helps us, indirectly, through the accumulation of positive karma. But whether you are Buddhist or not, helping others is the best way to make life so much happier and better for everyone, and compassion to our fellow man can give us all a wonderfully warm feeling.

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